With The Boy's kindergarten placement in a "typical" public school this September - I am nervous about how the other kids will treat The Boy and his classmates.
Will they make fun of him?
Will they isolate him?
Will they ignore him altogether as if he does not exist?
These are concerns every parent of a special needs child has.
A few weeks ago, I attended a BBQ with The Boy and The Husband. There were "typical" kids at this BBQ, kids around The Boy's age. They were playing at the sand/water table near their parents when The Boy ran over. Excited by the sand and water, he started hand flapping and making his bird like sounds ("EEEEEEEEEEEEEE"). The parents looked at The Boy and when I smiled at them, they smiled back and looked away. I tried to introduce The Boy to the other kids. I made him say hello. They politely said hello back. And that was it.
From time to time they stared at The Boy. I could tell they were curious, trying to figure out his behavior in their young minds. One boy even asked, "What's 'EEEEEEEEEE'?" And I clumsily tried to explain to this 6 year old about autism and sensory processing disorder.
But still, The Boy was ignored. Not that it mattered to him, he didn't notice. It mattered to me. I can preach about autism awareness and acceptance all I want. But when I step off my soap blogging box, it still hurts when your kid is the one that's left out and looked passed. Because it's easier to ignore him, than to stop and ask questions to try and understand. And how much can I really expect from 6 year olds?
The Boy is at the age where autism is becoming more and more obvious. It's not like when he was 2 or 3 or even 4 when it was easily disguised. He's 5 1/2 and he's different and there's no calling it anything else. He is my son and he goes where we go. We shouldn't have to hide him from society, because his behaviors make others uncomfortable.