One of my ideas was: I would not let my child sleep in our bed.
I stuck to this during the first 2 years. Even on The Boy's first night home, I gave him a bottle and put him in his crib to sleep. I was setting a precedent. And for a while, it worked.
Then, shortly before his 2nd birthday we converted his crib (after he learned to climb out) to a toddler bed -The Boy FREAKED OUT! I mean - hysterics. I couldn't understand what the big deal was. This was before the diagnosis. We tried everything to get him to fall asleep by himself. Looking back, it makes sense - we changed his routine.
The Boy would fall asleep after a few hours of crying, but always wake up in the middle of the night and wander into our bed. We used to fight it. Or rather, I used to fight it. Walking him back to his bed 4 or 5 times during the course of the night. I never really succeeded.
And once we got the diagnosis, all of my pre-paternal parenting ideas needed to be modified or thrown completely out window.
|The Boy reading a bed time story |
in OUR bed