So in a way I get when people try to comfort me and say "kids will be kids" or "all kids do that." But usually there kid isn't like my kid. And I wonder if corporal punishment and humiliation would work on The Boy. Probably not. Not that it's even a option. I'm just saying...
The Boy is having a hard time lately. 5 SEITs since January. We're currently waiting for SEIT #6. Spring Break and going to the baby sitters. The break in routine is starting to take its toll. And he doesn't have the language or cognitive ability to articulate the frustration he may be feeling.
Tonight I got home and checked The Boy's notebook. Today he threw an object at a staff member's face. When redirected, he urinated on himself - even though he's potty trained. Earlier this week, he punched a classmate in the eye and he pushed another. He never used to do these things. These are behaviors that have increased since the disruption in home-bases services. And I need to get him back on track. But I don't know how.
I'm worried about September, when he starts a new school. What will that change bring? Will the behaviors get worse? And will we have the support to help him?
Yes. All kids go through a stage where they hit, kick, throw and bite. Yes it's typical. But when our kids do it - it's different. Where is the line between behaviors associated with autism and age appropriate behavior? Is there a line? Or is it invisible like The Boy's disability. Because I can't discuss it with The Boy. He can't talk to me about what he's feeling. I mean, I try. But does he get it? Is he listening? Is he angry? Sad? Does he miss SEIT #1? I don't know. I ask him questions. But he begins to stim and I get jargon or scripted speech in return.
This is the feeling The Boy posted on his wall calendar: "Today I Feel Sad." And if it's true, if that is how he's feeling. I have no idea why.