- Madam Marie Therese Rodet Geoffrin
I spend a lot of time focusing on The Boy's social development (facilitating play dates, initiating social interaction, responding to social cues), however my own social life and sense of self is suffering. And if you're the mom of a special needs kid - I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.
I say no to pretty much every invitation I receive from friends. No, I have class. No, I have to take The Boy to sensory gym. No, it's my late day at work. No, it's been a rough week. No, I don't have money. And even when I have money - still No. Because I feel guilty spending money. Especially this year, with all this Turning 5 stuff. See my post Autism Ain't Cheap. And I've said No so many times, that the invitations come less and less.
Forget about a romantic night out with The Husband. Since my mother takes care of The Boy during the week, I hate to ask her to watch him on the weekends too. On the rare occasion, I do ask my mother to watch The Boy on a Saturday night, I feel like I'm fifteen years old begging for permission to go to a party. My parents never went out and left us behind. Ever. So she makes me feel guilty for wanting to go out. So The Husband and I stay home. Another reason why I say to no to friends - I don't go out with my husband, how can I go out with my friends?